When I was starting to homeschool, I was looking into so many things and ways to figure it all out. I had not intended to homeschool. It sorta just happened. When I started raising a family, I did not think about family culture or what a good family culture would be. I was too busy trying to get a list of things done that I thought needed doing. I didn't set out to build a specific family culture...it just kind of happened. I have to say this is one area that I am studying more now because I can see the affects of my family culture on me and those things that I tried to change in my family. As I think about how to deliberately build a family culture, Understood Betsy becomes a classic for me in that it contrasts independence and dependence. What do we want to teach in our homes and why? Why is it so important to examine what we might or might not being doing in our homes?
I have to believe that Aunt Frances did the best she could with the knowledge that she had but as we see in the story it creates a lot of fear and feeling of helplessness with Elizabeth Ann (Betsy). In many ways the transition that Betsy experienced when she moved to the farm is how I felt being introduced to the TJEd philosophy. There was so much that I didn't understand or know how to do. I have never felt that I had a great education and have struggled with what that even looks like or means. I just knew something was missing and I wanted different. But I didn't know what that difference was. I started to see how things could be different as I studied the ideas taught in the TJEd philosophy. Today I have been spending more and more time liking about how to build a family culture that unites and heals people and communities.
Interesting how as you better understand who you are and who you want to become, your classics change. Books that you thought were only okay become books that you later can use to help you see yourself and the world around you better.